Totalitarianism: Totalitarianism is a form of government that gives all power to a figure head, ruled by a small group of people (can be known as elites) which control everything inside the country.
Democracy: Democracy is when every citizen of a city-state/country all have the same amount of power & voice in the government, and can directly change policies the government would like to take.
To answer your problem:
Totalitarianism:
The government controls society.
There are few (if any) civil liberties.
A single leader or party rules.
Democracy:
People participate in government.
The government protects liberties.
There are many leaders and parties.
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