“A mother’s sensitivity to her baby’s distress at six months was a significant predictor of the baby’s attachment security at 15 months, but sensitivity during times of nondistress was not. It’s important that babies become securely attached to their caregivers because it’s the foundation for future healthy child development,” she said.
Mothers who realize they are uncomfortable with their baby’s distress should find ways to cope with those feelings so they can change their behavior, she said.
“Ideally, you want to show your child through your facial expression and your tone of voice that you understand how she feels and that you empathize with her,” McElwain said. “Respond in a timely way to your infant’s cues, and let your interactions with your infant be driven by the baby’s agenda, not your agenda.”
Recent research has shown that children respond more positively to mothers who are able to think of their infant as a person who has needs, desires, intentions, and a mental world, McElwain said.
“Try to see things from the infant’s point of view as much as possible. When mothers talk to their babies, even at six months, about the baby’s mental state and how the baby is feeling, infants respond to that verbalization,” she said.
But don’t obsess over your baby’s distress. “Sensitivity doesn’t necessarily mean responding to your baby every minute of the day. It does mean thinking about why the baby is upset,” McElwain said.
Being attuned to your baby’s emotional life should result in a securely attached toddler who seeks out his caregiver when he needs to be comforted and is able to explore his environment relatively freely when he isn’t stressed, said the researcher.
Cathryn Booth-LaForce of the University of Washington is co-author of the study. Funding was provided by NICHD.
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