How can we balance the need to fit in with the need to maintain individuality? (in depth if you can)

We all felt the pressure in school, with our peers to act like the cool kids. We didn't care as much for the homework, as we did how cool we were, or how many friends we had. Middle school, and high school, is where we tried to find out who we were. But, what we have to remember is that, others don't define who we are. We do. We define who we are, and it's not based on the clothes we wear, what others think we are, not even what our family thinks we are. The question is who do you want to be? What qualities do you want to have? Do you want to be angry, bitter, and bite at everyone that speaks to you? Ok, then be that person. It won't help you further in life, but if that's what you choose, then hey. If you want to be the person that anyone can come to talk to, the person that's trying to get ahead in life, than be that person. It's about who you want to be, and only you. So as you go throughout life, just remember that you are your own person, that you define who you are!

Hope this helps! :)