It amazes me that you could be so unfeeling as to send me your wedding picture. i would have sent it back. but on further thought i decided just to cut off your wife and send it back to you because i have nothing to do with her. how i wish that i had nothing to do with you either. when nene read through this letter and looked at the mutilated picture her eyes filled with tears, and she began to sob. –“marriage is a private affair,” chinua achebe how does this passage demonstrate that this culture is a patriarchy? nnaemeka sends his father a picture from his wedding day. okeke chooses the woman that nnaemeka marries. nnaemeka does not marry nene because his father does not approve. okeke disowns nnaemeka for not marrying the woman he chose.