put " Here weil write how just maybe we are turning kids inside out because as adults we feel like our lives are out of control. however in the end the author decides not to go to O. T and let’s her child develop in her own special way and like some mother says ‘“The saddest, most soul-crushing thing is the negative self-image. We think kids don’t understand what’s happening, but they do. There’s this quiet reinforcement that something is wrong with them. That’s the thing that’ll kill.” " into other words